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Sep 5, 2006 2:50:47 PM cite

How do you counteract violence, anger or hatred?

by poligence

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Sep 15, 2006 2:48:05 AM cite

what a great question...and i've been wondering the same thing lately............... There has to be a way for us humans to interact from a space of interconnectedness...connection...I think it is possible...............I think we have to re-learn and for most of us....learn for the first time, how to communicate in a different way.... COMMUN---I----CATION.............getting intouch and really connecting empathically to everyone...even those who are angry/violent, etc.... so, I've been reading Marshall Rosenberg.....an author on non-violent communication and conflict resolution..........it is absolutely amazing....since I myself am re-learning how to communicate in a more loving, peaceful way............this guy wants to have a meeting with Bush and i'd support it... Anyway, i highly recommend his books, and he describes ways to counteract people, groups, etc. coming at us from a place of anger............. The book includes examples of dialogue between him and different individuals and groups around the world.............people change the ways they communicate... Simply by getting in touch with our feelings and needs is the beginning........................and to see through someone else's words to find out what needs of their's are not being met............ We are not taught to "feel", ....................this is why we are at war................, well one of the reasons....if you'd like to talk more about this please,,,,i'm open to it......... Lacie

by misslace

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Sep 14, 2006 3:19:09 AM cite

There is a fantastic treatise which goes something like this: As long as people are talking, they are not fighting, yelling is OK but they are not fighting. As long as people are not fighting, they are not killing. So talk to your neighbors, the postman, the Cop on the corner, the world. That is not to say that while all the talking is going on there will be no fighting, no killing. Just less! People, We, need to put aside our agendas, our prejudices, out a curb around our egos and start talking

by RedSevenOne

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Sep 13, 2006 3:06:09 AM cite

The only way I know how to counteract violence, anger, hatred is to become as invisible and non-threatening as possible. That's what I did when a steroid-pumped and intoxicated monster got angry at me for no reason while waiting for the L train in Manhattan some time back. This guy was so big and strong, he literally could have lifted me up over his head and thrown me to my death on the tracks below. I shrunk, I spoke calmly, I apologized (for nothing, mind you). He continued to threaten me and I truly feared for my life but I gave him no reason to act violently towards me, so much so that I think that made him a little bit angry. He took the cap off my head (a beautifully hand-decorated one from Thailand) and threw it on the tracks. He kicked my bags of groceries around. But he didn't touch me. Somehow I was able to diffuse his violent and debilitate it by becoming a completely non-threatening and non-violent presence, one that was soothing and calm, in spite of my own fear. What would have happened in Afghanistan and Iraq if the US had dropped food and medicine instead of bombs? Might we have earned the cooperation of locals who could have helped flush out those responsible for 9/11 instead of hated us by further destroying their countries, taking lives, and exacerbating civil unrest (to say nothing about public opinion in the rest of the world)?

by artexetra

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  The Root by U810190 0 votes

Sep 9, 2006 5:49:41 PM cite

There is a reason for the violence, anger, and or hatred. If by counteract you mean that you wish to help stop the violence, anger, or hatred, then you you have to figure out the reason for which it all began. As a people and as a race (human) one thing we do little to understand is the reason for which things occur. Why things are the way that they are. There is ususually a history that we often neglect. Obviously if you can find the root of the problems which cause and lead to the violence, anger, or hatred, then there, at the root, you may find a way for the violence, anger and hatred to cease. Finding the reason, and knowing and understanding the history of the situation is you counteraction.

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Sep 9, 2006 4:17:09 PM cite

sublinieal messages over tv& radios. yOU KNOW SUPPER IMPOSED MESSAGES .

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  counteract by AvB 0 votes

Sep 9, 2006 3:39:34 PM cite

Counteract means per se doing the opposite.

by AvB

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Sep 9, 2006 12:55:00 PM cite

Antoschka - Ekaterina Moshaeva: It is another interesting question, and it is very interesting, that it has been put anonymously. It isn’t even signed. But I think that there are millions of people who could ask this question. It isn't an accidence that it is anonymous. To counteract…I think, the reply to it was already given thousands of years ago: to counteract with goodness. Only embittered and despairing people who were taken rights to exist, to love, to develop as personalities, to develop their personal minds they didn’t experience happy energy of love, because they didn’t get it. Even those people who have everything and even hundreds and thousands times more that they can make use of, have a great lack of love. That’s why they have to own all that things like expensive cloths, twenty cars instead of one and a big cold castle instead of a normal quiet comfortable home. They need it because there is a lack of love. And I always try to do it: I am a clown, I am against violence. And when I work on a performance – I do things myself and direct things – I try to give people a lot of smiling and a lot of positive energy. I arrange my brief stories which are very kind and show my attitude to animals, objects, human beings, or I show people deformed sides of their characters and they laugh at themselves.

by Antoschka - Ekaterina Moshaeva

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Sep 9, 2006 12:55:00 PM cite

Abbas Beydoun: I do not know, because I think that these issues can not be achieved easily by just volition. I guess this question is simplified and it is rather good intention than being question.

by Abbas Beydoun

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Sep 9, 2006 12:55:00 PM cite

Alvaro Restrepo: Easy question, easy answer: Obviously nowadays the word love has become a kind of outworn and devaluated term, and this may seem anachronic. But I think that, maybe because of my role as an educator, I grant a huge importance to love in educational processes. If we do not start from the very beginning to educate our children with love, we will never succeed in getting rid of violence, anger and hatred. So these three words are reactions – reactions, as the human being is a reactive being that reflects what it experiences. And if it has even been educated with violence, anger and hatred, it will give back the same violence, anger and hatred. It is always said that the one who commits a delinquency has at some time been misused and this turns out to be a vicious circle.

by Alvaro Restrepo

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Sep 9, 2006 12:55:00 PM cite

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Sep 9, 2006 12:55:00 PM cite

Andries Botha: Well, first thing, is to try to stay out of its way. Secondly, I think we need to understand, or try to understand, what constitutes the basis around which this – where does it come from. I don’t believe that we should just merely just accept that violence, anger and hatred becomes the leit-motifs of our contemporary culture. I think we need to, wherever we find it and experience it, first of all, get out of its way, and secondly engage it in order to understand it. Understand it - it has a basis, it comes from somewhere. It doesn’t just exist in a vacuum.

by Andries Botha

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On Violence, Anger and Hatred

Oct 1, 2006 2:06:31 PM cite

Dear Sir, having grown up with a lot of violence, hatred and anger myself, i have learned a few things i would like to share with you, as they may be of your interest . The first thing i learned in this respect is that violence may be mental or fysical, but pain is always a mental thing. What i mean to say is that violence does not need to be suffered from. Its the suffering that causes most inefficient responses to violence. Violence can be constructive, which is a very tricky statement, i know, but it is my experience that this is true. This in respect of the fact that violence is not a very good remedy to itself. As far as anger and hatred is concerned, i have learned that they consist of the same 'material' as love and passion, or fear and pride for that matter. They just wear a different 'jacket' so to speak. Adress the 'jacket' and you will be confronted with the content in that form. However, if you try to influence the content, you may and in most cases will find that this changes the 'jacket' rather rapidly. The basis of any agreement is the things we have in common and we always have something in common. That is the powersource of, for instance, the UN. I also believe that everyone 'knows' violence, hatred and anger. So the best way to understand it in others, is in understanding our own, ... and the other way around. This way, iolence may become effort, anger may become engagement and hatred may become zeal. I hope this is usefull to you and thank you for your attention, Greetings, Berend.

by Berend

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Sep 9, 2006 12:55:00 PM cite

Angaangaq Lyberth: I’m so glad you asked that question, whoever you are. Have you ever heard about something called love and compassion, equality and trust, recognition and acceptance of one another? When I think of it, how we can contrast the violence, anger and hatred, I think of those because those are the ones which will allow you to be recognized, accepted, recognized, loved, respected in each circle no matter where you are. That is how I feel that we can contrast it. There’s enough violence as it is. There’s enough anger as it is. There is enough hatred as it is. Without them the spirit of the world can be so beautiful. God, I have traveled around the world now so many times and realize how beautiful it can be if only we could realize that the beauty is worth having not looking through the lens of the violence, anger and hatred. Did I make sense to you? I sure hope so. Next time you ask the same question I would put you responsible to help the world ridding of itself of hatred, violence and anger. Thank you.

by Angaangaq Lyberth

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Sep 9, 2006 12:55:00 PM cite

Anthony Arnove: I think the question is potentially quite abstract because the question is do we root anger, do we root hatred and violence in individual attitudes or do we see them as having social roots. I think the reality is that they have social roots. These emotions, these conflicts have origins in history, have origins in people’s social and material circumstances. There is nothing innate in human nature that leads to anger, that leads to hatred, that leads to violence. We are not inherently xenophobic, we are not inherently antagonistic towards one another people. Whether or not, we have those beliefs, whether or not we have those attitudes, depends on our social circumstances. And what history shows is that we can change social circumstances and reduce violence, reduce hatred. But, also it shows something really important, which is that in struggling to change history, in struggling to change our material circumstances, in struggling for example basic economic transformation to meet basic human needs, people change themselves, change their attitudes, find their circumstances changing even in that process of social change. So, for example, you see how workers in the United States in the history fighting for basic and economic rights. They have come to understand that racism, that sexism, that homophobia, that nationalism divide and weaken their movements. And therefore, you can have a process of consciousness raising among people who formally may have had racist or sexist ideas, have had xenophobic ideas come to challenge, come to question those beliefs. And so, really, the first step is in changing these is to set about the process of collectively organizing to try.

by Anthony Arnove

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Sep 9, 2006 12:55:00 PM cite

Anuradha Koirala: You can counteract violence by wanting to provide peace and love natured by faith.

by Anuradha Koirala

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Sep 9, 2006 12:55:00 PM cite

Anuradha Mittal: Well, when I think about how to counter violence, anger, or hatred, I think the only way that I can do it is through passivism, love, and forgiveness. That’s the only way that one can actually challenge violence, anger, or hatred. Again, it is passivism, love, and forgiveness.

by Anuradha Mittal

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Sep 9, 2006 12:55:00 PM cite

Ashok Gangadean: This question is interesting because it can be read in different ways obviously. I call out the questions, how do you? And it could mean how does one in general, or how do you, me, counteract violence, hatred and anger, and I take it very personally in the sense of how do I? And speaking from my point of view and as a global philosopher, as I had studied the great teachings of our teachers and teachers across the planet, across our cultures through the ages. And all of these teachings have seen that the source of anger, hatred, violence comes from a consciousness, a form of making yourself and your world and using your mind and technology of thinking. And again, I keep going back to ego based or egocentric culture and self-making, where one separates oneself and the other and processes information and the screen of ego awareness. And not realizing that that is at the very source of anger, frustration, rage, violence by its very nature. Once we make the link between violence, rage, anger and our technology of consciousness and to recognize that we have been taught by our great teachers an alternative form of consciousness that is non-violent and one that brings peace and tranquility and harmony and justice and compassion and love and mutuality and respect and dignity. That is the culture of integral holistic awareness where we come in touch with reality, which is the field of interconnectivity and interrelations and deep dialogue. If we enter a consciousness of deep dialogue, global consciousness, global spirituality which is acknowledged by high science, that realizes that reality is a profound field of interconnectivity. So it really is about science and objective reality. When we come into connecting in this way, we overcome the deep sources of alienation, fragmentation and violence and anger and rage, frustration, emptiness, nihilism that comes with ego-mental culture.

by Ashok Gangadean

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Sep 9, 2006 12:55:00 PM cite

Audrey Kitagawa: It is the responsibility of each and every one of us to counteract violence, anger, and hatred by developing our spiritual discipline and to be able to tap into our inner forces of love and to be able to share that love, express that love, to be that love itself. It also calls upon us to develop our values, our spiritual principles and practices in daily life that we may ultimately live life with loving kindness, compassion, understanding. And this is something that we all must do for violence, hatred, and anger begins within the individual and is made manifest and projected outward. So how a society behaves is ultimately represented by the collective consciousness of the individuals within it. So each person has responsibility to be able to counteract violence, anger, and hatred with love. Love is ultimately what makes life meaningful and makes life worth living.

by Audrey Kitagawa

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Sep 9, 2006 12:55:00 PM cite

Avi Primor: Where is hatred from? Mostly it comes from fear. If man is not able to understand the other, if man does now know who the other one is, if man perceives the other one as something mysterious, man begins to ask questions. What kind of complot is going on - among the others, among the minorities, among the neighbour's, among the strangers? This strangeness arouses suspicion, this suspicion stokes fear, fear rakes hatred and hatred leads to violence. So there is only one way to avoid this - education. The one have to get to know the others, they have to know more about others, especially about the direct neighbours. Man should know much about the minorities living in their surroundings. One should not say they are somehow different, I do not even know and I even do not want to know how they are - far from it: One has to know more! The more one is able to understand others, the less one fears him and then there is no hatred and no violence any more. This actually is the core of the whole problem. Of course it deals with education and the problem is that the education is still very different nowadays. Every nation has its own history books. In some cases single clans have their own history, sometimes even families, and the history is not only antagonised against others, but it restricts to itself and this is a way not to appreciate, not to understand others and then suspect the other ones, fear, hate and fight against them. So we are to have education and as far as possible the same education for everyone.

by Avi Primor

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Sep 9, 2006 12:55:00 PM cite

Benjamin Fahrer: Ohm shanti, shanti, shanti. Opposite of peace -- violence, anger or hatred. These are so, oh man, things happen in our world that make us angry. That then we begin to hate that which makes us angry and we react with violence. These three are a trinity of emotions that you have every right as human being to feel. When they cut down Julia Butterfly Hill, I heard her speak recently, amazing woman, and what she said was that when they cut down the tree, they cut down an ancient redwood tree that’s been growing for 2,000 years. You have every right to be angry. She had every right to be angry. When something happens in our lives that makes us angry, if that’s what is you are feeling, you have every right to be angry. If you suppress that, it becomes a none -- it will build up and come out in a violent way. But, you have every right to feel angry but it’s how you respond. You should not act of that anger. They should come from a place of compassion, of love, of knowing then those that caused these acts that has now made you angry. Most likely, you don’t really know what they‘re doing truly. And if they do, man, it’s really sad. They are coming from a very sad place and it’s that compassion towards them, of them being so disconnected from nature and from the world that they’ll cut down the trees and destroy that which is sacred. It will make us angry but we must act from a good place in our heart, come from a good place.

by Benjamin Fahrer

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