Nov 17, 2007 5:24:43 PM cite

have you ever feel alone even when you are in the big group of people?i did and i can tell you it is even worse sometimes we can't find our group of people,people who share our interests and way of living and to this i can add that the worst is when you love someone but you can't be with him because of different reason this the time when you feel alone and sad no matter who is next to you the good side of this is that everything passes...

by jaj

Jan 29, 2007 6:34:15 PM cite

I feel that society and Western culture has driven us to be alone. Our culture has isolated us. You can even feel it when we meet people on the street. People don't even stop to say hello, they just nod. Everything revolves around speed and networking and accomplishing more in our lives, yet we lose the very parts of life that make us human. Sometime we have to just slooooowww down. Sometimes we just have to talk to people, even if we don't know them, because most the times we can feel that they yearn for company as well. There are so many people in this world, but they are interacting only with themselves. People have to open themselves up.

by skymorrison

Sep 19, 2006 2:12:54 AM cite

I believe there is a problem with connecting to each other sometimes, due to fears and prejudice. Everyone wants to belong, but sometimes there is a wedge created in our mind's that keeps us isolated from each other.

by Deannahawk

Sep 19, 2006 1:11:12 AM cite

There are two reasons to be alone, the first is by choice and the second is be consequence. In the first case you choose to be alone, this can be any thing from walking alone on the beach or through the town, not communicating with anyone, or going so far to, at the end of each day being alone when you put your head down to sleep. The second, by consequence, can be the result of shunning or prejudice or the result of an institutional sanction leading from the one hand monastic rules through to judicial intervention. Ultimately, however, the choice remains yours on how you deal with being alone.

by RedSevenOne

Sep 18, 2006 11:41:55 PM cite

The fact that we are here on earth, shows that we are on the path to developing an individual consciousness that is part of the group consciousness of humanity. There are racial personality clusters, national personality clusters, municipal personality clusters, family personality clusters. Our individual identity is evolving like branches of a fractal. This is the group soul exploring in our individuality.

by Neo Socrates

Sep 11, 2006 11:15:38 AM cite

While the most time in our development as specie we ware used to live in little group with a maximum of 50 people. All in the group had common goals and knew each other since childhood, having the same experiences. We are geneticly not made for living in big cities. There are same great books from Desmond Morris(example: "The human Zoo" http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Human_Zoo_%28book%29), who explains that we are just animals not made for the kind of today life. That doesnt mean that modern life is bad. But it explains that its not strange to feel alone with millions of people around. Its natural...

by shybyte

Sep 10, 2006 8:27:22 PM cite

Each person has the advantage of being a separate entity. This is a good thing. However, it is in our nature to want to be part of something greater. We are not always aware that we are part of something greater. It is up to each of us to reach out and touch the others around you that are also lonely. Be willing to accept that that person may not be ready for that invasion of their lonliness.

by GeorgeSnyder

Sep 9, 2006 8:30:35 PM cite

Hey there Nadja. It is kind of funny you are asking that. I thought like that too last year (2005). People started to open my eyes about how much God loves me, and i started a personal relationship with Him. Life makes sense now and has been awesome ever since. God opend my eyes and gave me an answer to most of my problems, and feeling lonely is not an issue anymore. ;) God bless your Heart. Take care

by Arian Hakim

Sep 9, 2006 6:05:00 PM cite

Antoschka - Ekaterina Moshaeva: Because people are disconnected, very disconnected. It begins after our birth. When the child is born and parents have no time to grow up it they give it to... or it stays alone. People are disconnected, people have much emotions, this greed and this competition, you know. They see in another person an enemy, you know. But why don´t you try to make enemy to your friend? As in childhood You can return in your childhood because children believe, they believe people, they believe their mothers, they believe teachers and friends, you know. And sometimes they are fighting, but after that they become better, closer friends because they clear the situation and their positions. If people have an accident or unpleasant things in your life because life is very complicated they "close" themselves off, they have so much fear and they close themselves off. And I think people must open themselves, they must open out. Because there is love - love around you. And how much love you give so much love you receive back. It´s a law, it´s a law of light. And light is inside people. How much love or light you give you get more back, because you, you alone give your light to many people and a lot of people give it you back. It´s a principle of my life. I am very happy because, I am very happy because I get support from people´s good wishes to me. And I can work, I can do my job more positively and with more love.

by Antoschka - Ekaterina Moshaeva

Sep 9, 2006 6:05:00 PM cite

Abbas Beydoun: I just would like to say a verse I have composed. The verse is: „I live surrounded by all of those who made me alone".

by Abbas Beydoun

Sep 9, 2006 6:05:00 PM cite

Alvaro Restrepo: I think that being alone is the natural condition of a human being, we all are alone. We all are lonely and we have to learn to be alone. I think that each of us has to confront its life and death alone. We should stop being afraid of being alone. We should get prepared from our childhood on to be alone and we should get prepared for the death too. We feel united in loneliness, we are afraid of being alone and we are not able to be alone with ourselves. Loneliness is tragedy for us. I think that there is no higher privilege than being able to enjoy loneliness, being able to be alone with itself. Furthermore, we should learn to prepare ourselves for the process of our own destruction, for the death. It is common to talk about loneliness in a crowded place. We should appreciate loneliness as a gift, as a gift of stregth and not as tragedy. Here we are talking all together in this big event and still we are alone, infinitely alone.

by Alvaro Restrepo

Sep 9, 2006 6:05:00 PM cite

Ana Lucy Bengochea: I think when a person has ideas in his mind and wants to change something you can compare this to the situation of a mother: her life will change and having a child means she lives and fights for it; a mother doesn't feel alone. This shows that we feel alone when we are empty on the inside. We won't feel alone if we are not empty on the inside. To overcome this emptyness we should unite and do something social.Let's join an organisation, let's do something in the field of solidarity, let's join something which will transform us in a way that we feel useful for ourselves and for humanity.

by Ana Lucy Bengochea

Sep 9, 2006 6:05:00 PM cite

Andries Botha: Nadya, I think - I think we as a civilization, as a global civilization, have evolved into this idea of singularity. We’ve lost our sense of community. So the more people that move into the cities, the more isolated we become. We lose our sense of traditional community. We lose the - we’ve lost the idea that we are an independent and co-dependent entity. So, the irony is that the more congested we become, the more fraught we become. The traditional nuclear family has completely lost this idea that it belongs to the traditional collective family. Where in a community of people we can belong, but instead in a larger community of people the space conflates, contracts, and we become isolated from one another. I think this is the reality of contemporary life. We’re nervous, we’re afraid, we’re neurotic. Our collective spaces are fraught.

by Andries Botha

Sep 9, 2006 6:05:00 PM cite

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by Angaangaq Lyberth

Sep 9, 2006 6:05:00 PM cite

Anthony Arnove: I think the question of aloneness doesn’t need to be linked to the question of the fact that there are so many people in the world that you can only understand isolation today in terms of social circumstances that produce isolation, that produce feelings of alienation. We have a society that deliberately tries to atomize people, deliberately tries to isolate people, and deliberately tries to make people feel that they are alone. That does so as a means of social control; that does so as a means of limiting the kinds of collectivities, the kinds of organization that could bring about social change, that could bring about social transformation and the alienation is very much linked to the conditions of labor, to the conditions of the reproduction of labor in our society. So, really, if we want to feel part of a collectivity, part of a greater global community, the first step we can take is to challenge the ideologies that encourage that feeling of atomization, isolation. But, more importantly practically to find ways of connecting even small collectivities that can become a part of challenging that process of atomization, challenging those conditions of alienation, challenging the ideologies of our society that lead us to believe we are crazy for thinking that this world is unjust, for thinking that there must be a better way of organizing our societies, thinking that there must be a better way of being in this world.

by Anthony Arnove

Sep 9, 2006 6:05:00 PM cite

Anuradha Koirala: It is, I think, that we have egos and that is why we feel that if we live with egos—we love to live with egos-- that is why we always feel alone.

by Anuradha Koirala

Sep 9, 2006 6:05:00 PM cite

Anuradha Mittal: I think we feel alone because we come alone into this world and we go alone. But the question that I’ve grappled with is that when we have so many people, why are we lonely? Why are we lonely? And I think it’s because of the fragmentation of our communities, because of this materialistic consumer world that we live in, where instead of human beings, we turn into consumers; that we are of value only when we are buying. So, given that, when we are disconnecting from our families, from our communities, from the environment, from nature, from our religion, from our faith, from our courage, from our belief system, yes, it gets very lonely.

by Anuradha Mittal